Monday, August 31, 2009

TesT TeAsE & TeRmiNaTe!

so...i wrote a post about the purpose of this blog before it's been written. truth is people, this blog will create it's own path based on my current & future experiences; not necessarily what i've been through in the past. i mean, why? the past is over, right?! let's live in the moment and plan for the future! (the future being plans for this weekend)?

OKAY, i meet a lot of guys. probably cause i put myself out there. but other times, i try to hold back & let the man be the pursuer. after all, men DO like a challenge. it's a toughy for me. but i've attempted several different "menthods" to see what works. then i try them again in new situations with new people. kinda fun actually. this is where i get my theories & strange scenarios.

1st Date Kiss - yay or nay? i meet men who don't want to take me out again because i denied their kiss on the first date. i've also met men who have rejected me because i DID return their kiss on the first date. yeah. the men who set a trap to sabotage any potential future. for what reason?
we woman do it too. how come?
it's what i call the Trick T's. (it's no accident that "T's" sounds like "tease")

1). TEST - we kind of feel the water. evaluate him to see where it's head is at. (pun intended) determine our level of interest. use sensual body language. wear tight, sexy clothes to see if he looks. flirt to test if he'll flirt back.

2). TEASE - invite them in. suggest "watching a movie." (that SCREAMS "let's make out!") then, give them opportunities to make the move. and when he does you reciprocate it. we then turn him on even more. whether it be through intimate conversation, or slowly dragging your fingers across the top of his pants line...we tease him to the point he can hardly stand it! basically, we give him the go ahead signal! then...
3). TERMINATE! "OMG...we were only kissing, then he totally tried to fool around with me!" whether it was going for the boobs or heading down the pathway to paradise, he ACTUALLY tried to go to [enter 2nd, 3rd or home base here]. How DARE he?!"

Ladies, seriously?! He fell for OUR trap and what do we do? Terminate the relationship because "he OBVIOUSLY doesn't respect me" or "all he wants is a piece!" the poor guy has got a muscle that when in play washes out any rationale and most self control! we set him up, then use it against him. it's so sneaky...(and it totally works)! and am I wrong that we HATE it when guys do it back? yeah, pretty much we’re all jacked up! this just ONE of the many things i can go on and on about!

shall we take a deeper look on why we do this? while the Trick T's i just explained look a little different for everyone, here is my confession:

when evaluating why i trap men in my Trick T's, usually it's because i don't see a potential relationship there anyway so it's an easy way out. "hey, last night was fun and all but...i'm sorry. things went a little too fast and i think we're looking for different things..."

* * * * * * * * TerminaTion successful * * * * * * * *

OR, deep down i'm hoping he removes my fingers tracing his waistline and holds my hand. cause he respects me and kissing is enough. when he falls for the trap i set however, i lose respect for HIM because he showed he doesn't respect me. *shakes head in confusion* is there a possibility that had i never "T-eased" him the respect would have been there for the next date?
Your ThoughTs & Theories?


Anonymous said...

I LOVE YOUR BLOG! I'm going to tell all my gf's about it. thx 4 ur insight.

Anonymous said...

Boyz are dumb! and i guess us girlz are too 4 liking them! I love Trick T's. sounds almost like strip tease! which is funny cause they are somewhat related! I found this blog on google and am going to save it in my favorites! I'll look for your other posts!